The Relationship Advice Series Coming Soon

I’m starting a new non fiction series post for relationship advice that focuses on several relationship stories and lessons that can help to improve your relationship with people and use to help you in useful situations.

The relationship series is a weekly monthly post. In these posts, I will try to include helpful relevant links and references in the post to help you with visualising the problem and then a way to overcome or minimize the problem.

(aploogies, it will be a monthly post I overestimated myself)

Why am i running this now?

  1. Coming back to understanding myself. I used to run an advice blog. Recently, i was in an advice blog along with other good tumblr advisors on tumblr to help people give out advice to those having any kind of problems. I want to try to do it again.
  2. To feel good. I always feel like it’s a good thing to help people in need of a good advice. From my experience, when I was able to help someone get back on their feet, it felt great to be a part of it.
  3. Build better rapport with you. I like it to be a two-way communication between us.  Share your own opinions and advice on the topic.
  4. Do something meaningful. If not giving back to the community, then what else right? Life is about understanding and sharing our knowledge and experience with each other. That is a great gift anyone can ever get and benefit from.
With that, I hope to end this post with a quote,

When you give yourself to others, life returns your call and give good experience back to you.

How to Improve your Body Posture and appear Confident.

folded arms

via lifehacker

I was sitting thinking about how my body language is affecting people. The more i thought of it, the more conscious i start to become. At the same time while doing so, I can’t help but to look at other people’s body and see what their body is trying to show.

There was a really cute girl in front of me while i board the train one day, but she seemed to be slouching down with her arms crossing in front of her. She seemed like a nice person, but her posture made it seem like she didn’t want to be seen or just want to be left alone with.

Have you ever thought of the message you’re bringing across while you’re standing with your arms folded in front?

An arm folded in front crossing each other signals insecurity. I happen to observe that this happens almost anywhere, or when there’s someone in your line of sight or zone.Then again, you might say its cold, which is also a sign of insecurity that you need to keep yourself warm.

These unconscious acts often leads to lesser communication because it makes you seem unapproachable. Other ways people are doing unconsciously is putting their bags in front of them, nervous tension, fiddling with their hands or trying to look down all the time and avoid eye contact.

Truth is there’s a lot of amount of people who do this unconsciously. I’ve to admit, as conscious as i am, i happen to do it too, so as soon as I realise what I’m doing, I quickly correct my standing position to make me look more approachable and visible at least.

I was following reading up on a book called ‘The Body Language Bible‘ by Judi James and in one of the chapters talks about your power posturing, which I find would be the best posture to make you look better, feel healthier and be confident.

Look in the mirror on how you would normally stand, and then try to compare it with you standing following the steps below.

  • Stretch your spine as if you’re trying to touch the ceiling with your head
  • Keep your head straight and chin at a right angle.
  • Wriggle your toes to make yourself feet aware. Know your ground well, and find the balance between both of your feet
  • Roll your shoulders in a circular motion starting from up and forward and then back and down. Keep it back and down
  • Keep fingertips brushed against side of your thighs.
  • Push your lower pelvis forward a little (men please be more delicate with this)
  • Take deep breaths in
  • Tuck in your stomach
  • And then Smile!

Does the Power Posturing make you look better, and appear more friendlier? Try applying it in your life and see some changes.

(it may feel a little bit weird standing in the position, because your body is used to your natural position, but you will soon get used to the new position) 

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Daily Prompt: Take Care

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When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?

When I’m unwell, i tend to try to make sure I’m able to do what i can to not trouble others. I do however, at times call up my mum to see if she knows what I can do.

I used to have others take care of me most of the time, because when i do get sick, I have it very bad, but nowadays i tell myself to do the best i can independently. I do however allow others to take care of me, because i think its a sign of gesture, and really helps a lot with the process of recovering not only physically, but also emotionally, knowing that someone is there to help you recover is soothing and helps me calm down and think that everything’s going to be okay.

Certain help like letting my grandma know that I’m sick, so that she don’t have to cook really heavy food, cause she likes to cook, or letting my mum know so that she won’t have to wonder why I’m not answering my calls when I’m supposed to rest.

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5 tips to an ‘Easier Start’

There’s a really important meeting starting soon, there’s a new interview you’re applying to, meeting on a date with someone new, or perhaps you just happen to feel like you need to somehow start your day feeling a less of a burden, without a weight on your back.

I feel you, and to be honest even I have had the toughest of days.There’s things holding us back, but sometimes we’re just not too sure what it is, or simply we ‘forget’ to do things like this.

There are 5 simple tips that I would like to share with you, that I normally would use for helping me start my day better.


Packing (Photo credit: CEThompson)

#Tip 1 : Plan ahead

I think this is really the most simple and efficient way to get things done, but sometimes I feel that we tend to neglect. We happen to be going to work tomorrow, but we neglect the time to prepare our clothes to wear beforehand, and to excuse ourselves, ‘there’s still time tomorrow to wake up and find what i want to wear’ , and waking up late tomorrow spoils that plan.

If you have something on, prepare it before hand. Get ready your stuffs in the bag, or at least somewhere you would normally go and reach to before leaving the house.

#Tip 2: Recall things 

P psychology

P psychology (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Recalling is a good technique I normally use to help me get on track. Try to recall what happen the few days before generally, and put that into storage. It may help you to get back on par with what you could have left unfinished, or perhaps someone you’ve met that you might need to contact. If you’re in a meeting, try and recall the person you had the meeting with, if you’re in a date, try and remember what was ‘his/her’ name and whether you might want to meet up again. If you’re going to work, try and recall the last time you head to work, and how you have did the day.

Another way to do this would be to use a reminder, to I have yet to do, and for that I’m using Any.Do. You may choose to check that out in your mobile store, it’s available for Android, Iphone, and Chrome users.

#Tip 3 : Visualise before Action

A lot of professional people does this. It may sound weird, or not even make sense at first, but its been proven otherwise. Great athletes, visualise how they would run a race, shoot the ball, hit the bat. Visualisation is the key that helps to  unlock the potential in one’s mind.
Being prepared not just physically, but mentally.

I choose to do this before going to work. The day before or morning after waking up, i would stop whatever I’m doing, visualise how I’m going to work, and pretend to have a scene where I was doing my best job, working happily, and everything was good and how i wanted it to be. This has definitely help me a lot, especially for Mondays. I hardly ever get the ‘Monday’ Blues when it comes to work, because i don’t feel that way.

#Tip 4 : Sleep enough

Baby gorilla having a sleep on his mother

Baby gorilla having a sleep on his mother (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I can’t emphasise this enough. It’s really that important. I have to admit, even i don’t sleep enough sometimes, but i realise that whenever i am able to sleep enough, my next day wouldn’t be as tiresome as other days. An average child would need 10-12 hours of sleep, a teen would need 8-10 hours, and as an adult, about 7-9 hours. This are roughly the number of hours to sleep that have been researched or expected, but still we understand our body better to know how many sleep we should get to get a good day starting. It’s definitely good if there’s some important things going on.

Here’s a link where you can get the charts.

#Tip 5 : Smile and Laugh

Only the serious know how to truly laugh

Only the serious know how to truly laugh (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I remembered attending to a laughing course activity once in school. Literally, what I have to do for the course, was to laugh, even if it was a fake laugh. We were told to fake a laugh until we laugh for real. It appears to be that, laughing helps to release a chemical into our body, that helps to generally relieve stress and tension.

I find that smiling is really a contagious effect. It does not only spreads physically through our body but also spiritually. The more we are around the people that we’re happy with, the more we are happy. So smiling, helps to create that feeling of being a state of happiness. It does create an aura, that attracts the happy people towards  us.

I once had a bad morning, but realising that I shouldn’t let that affect my day, I smiled on the way to work, with the people i met with, and it felt really good. It did make the people i was with more happy to be with me, at the same time, i felt good because I didn’t really care what happen in the morning after.

So that’s my few tips I’d like to share with you.
If you do have any other tips you want to share, please do! I would love to hear them 🙂

These are some related posts you might wanna check out as well ! 🙂

Understanding Yourself Through Nail Reading

Did you know that by reading your nails, you are able to find out more about yourself in health . Sometimes diseases and disorder are shown through nails. I find this  really interesting because it shows that even our nails are part and one with the body, and it can show signs to ‘inform’ you, whether or not you’re doing okay.

Recently, I saw my mum scrolling through an interesting article  in her email so i thought I’d share it with you, and she came up to me and asked, “Can you show me your fingernail?”

At first, i thought she wanted to see if i did cut my nails! I saw her looking deeply into my fingernail, and it appears to be that she’s checking for something, but she didn’t find anything really, which is good (phew) because here’s what she’s been looking out for.

I would recommend that you look this under a bright spotlight.

The different types of nails


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Dark lines beneath the nails

Dark lines beneath the nail should be investigated as soon as possible. They are sometimes caused by melanoma, the most dangerous type of skin cancer.

(though if you’ve just used a chalk, or marker, you might be mistaking it for this, so wash your hands and check again)

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Cracked or Split Nails

Dry, brittle nails that frequently crack or split have been linked to thyroid disease. Cracking or splitting combined with a yellowish hue is more likely due to a fungal infection.

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Rippled Nails

If the nail surface is rippled or pitted, this may be an early sign of psoriasis or inflammatory arthritis. Discolouration of the nail is common; the skin under the nail can seem reddish-brown.

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Bluish Nails

Nails with a bluish tint can mean the body isn’t getting enough oxygen O2. This could indicate an infection in the lungs, such as pneumonia. Some heart problems can be associated with bluish nails.  (if you think it had been cool to have bluish nails all along, its time to reconfirm that.. really.)

Screen Shot 2013-05-23 at 12.04.37 PMYellow Nails

One of the most common causes of yellow nails is a fungal infection. As the infection worsens, the nail bed may retract, and nails may thicken and crumble. In rare cases, yellow nails can indicate a more serious condition such as severe thyroid disease, lung disease, diabetes or psoriasis.

(My fingers appear to look like this, after eating Super Rings or Sop Tulang with my bare hands, so really check again, it might be the food you just ate a few hours ago )

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White nails

If the nails are mostly white with darker rims, this can indicate liver problems, such as hepatitis. In this image, you can see the fingers are also jaundiced, another sign of liver trouble.

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Pale Nails

Very pale nails can sometimes be a sign of serious illness, such as

  • Anemia
  • Congestive heart failure
  • Liver disease
  • Malnutrition

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Puffy Nail Fold

If the skin around the nail appears red and puffy, this is known as inflammation of the nail fold. It may be the result of lupus or another connective tissue disorder. Infection can also cause redness and inflammation of the nail fold.

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Gnawed Nails

Biting your nails may be nothing more than an old habit, but in some cases it’s a sign of persistent anxiety that could benefit from treatment. Nail biting or picking has also been linked to obsessive-compulsive disorder. If you can’t stop, it’s worth discussing with your doctor.

To sum it up, our body is important, and we should be aware of the changes in our body and how we feel which also relates to an overall health.Personally, I find that heath is more important then intelligence or even beauty. It is crucial to our everyday life, and living healthily, is a good start to a long health.

Thank you!

part of This post and its description does not come from  me, and the credits goes to the person who created this. I’m here to share it out and add in a few thoughts and insights.

A similar photo slide show was found on WebMD and reviewed by Reviewed by Laura J. Martin, MD.

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Daily Prompt: Helping Hand

Daily prompts comes out with good questions, and for today, the topic is ;

Tell us about the most surprising helping hand you’ve ever received.

The most surprising helping hand huh, Hmmmm. Good question!

There was a time, the land before time,  where i wanted to feel better. I wanted to feel more muscular and i felt like i wanted to go and train myself and work out. I was so eager to go the gym at school, but at the same time i felt quite intimidated by the people there, those guys who were bigger than me, with their huge arms, comparing them to my skinny arms, every now and then.

I didn’t know what to do or where to start. I started following people blindly, and copy what they do, and i was already struggling halfway through each set. The cold stares didn’t help either. I didn’t  know what i was doing, really.

After some time going to the gym, i kept seeing the regulars who were always there and one time, I was approached by a few people  at different times who’s training in the gym, and surprisingly they came up to me and decided to help me out with my weight training and push me harder so i can get the best reps possible. I can’t carry heavy for nuts,so they told me to start slowly with a lower weight.

Never be afraid to start small, and light.

and i also realised later that’s its not really about the size of that metal plates that matters but about doing it right.

Some other important thing that helped was they had find the time to explain the proper technique, like not to shift your body while doing hammer curls, example.

They also taught me breathing techniques and when to breathe in and out.  The good advice they gave me allowed me to understand that going to the gym, is not just about working out, its also about being humble, and helping each other out whenever possible.

They  literally  gave me a helping hand, while doing my set, to help my push my weights when i was struggling.

I think its just that common courtesy of gyming, and i think that its a good thing to practice over now and then.

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Operation WNF – 28th March 2012

I just woke up from my afternoon nap, i saw the watch strikes 6pm, i saw my neighbor’s cat who lives below on the 1st story sleeping on my blanket. The white noise from my fan, makes me want to sleep a little more longer, but when i think about it back, i wouldn’t want to make that as an excuse, so i got up from bed, with the confident mind to complete what I had wanted to do.

“5K today”, i can do this.  I had in my mind the route which I’m gonna go for, it was the same as previous, only taking an extra longer route before coming back home. Unfortunately, my RunKeeper App from my hand phone didn’t get the signal for GPS today, probably due to the weather conditions maybe,  and halfway through, I heard the voice from the app goes, distance 0.0 km .

Didn’t gave up , just went on with what I had planned and sweat a lot.
Upon reaching home and checking if there’s anything i can do about the Runkeeper App website page, i saw that you can add in the activities, so it was a relieve.
Plotted out the route i ran, and was surprised to see that i had passed the 5k.

5K done! 🙂 It was good, I’m definitely going for another round of 5K soon again.
Here’s what i have learned from today.

When you put your mind and effort to it and believe that you can, there will be progress.