I was sitting thinking about how my body language is affecting people. The more i thought of it, the more conscious i start to become. At the same time while doing so, I can’t help but to look at other people’s body and see what their body is trying to show.
There was a really cute girl in front of me while i board the train one day, but she seemed to be slouching down with her arms crossing in front of her. She seemed like a nice person, but her posture made it seem like she didn’t want to be seen or just want to be left alone with.
Have you ever thought of the message you’re bringing across while you’re standing with your arms folded in front?
An arm folded in front crossing each other signals insecurity. I happen to observe that this happens almost anywhere, or when there’s someone in your line of sight or zone.Then again, you might say its cold, which is also a sign of insecurity that you need to keep yourself warm.
These unconscious acts often leads to lesser communication because it makes you seem unapproachable. Other ways people are doing unconsciously is putting their bags in front of them, nervous tension, fiddling with their hands or trying to look down all the time and avoid eye contact.
Truth is there’s a lot of amount of people who do this unconsciously. I’ve to admit, as conscious as i am, i happen to do it too, so as soon as I realise what I’m doing, I quickly correct my standing position to make me look more approachable and visible at least.
I was following reading up on a book called ‘The Body Language Bible‘ by Judi James and in one of the chapters talks about your power posturing, which I find would be the best posture to make you look better, feel healthier and be confident.
Look in the mirror on how you would normally stand, and then try to compare it with you standing following the steps below.
- Stretch your spine as if you’re trying to touch the ceiling with your head
- Keep your head straight and chin at a right angle.
- Wriggle your toes to make yourself feet aware. Know your ground well, and find the balance between both of your feet
- Roll your shoulders in a circular motion starting from up and forward and then back and down. Keep it back and down
- Keep fingertips brushed against side of your thighs.
- Push your lower pelvis forward a little (men please be more delicate with this)
- Take deep breaths in
- Tuck in your stomach
- And then Smile!
Does the Power Posturing make you look better, and appear more friendlier? Try applying it in your life and see some changes.
(it may feel a little bit weird standing in the position, because your body is used to your natural position, but you will soon get used to the new position)